Friday, October 3, 2008

I Can't Text Communicate, Don't Ask Me

Text. Text. Text. It fascinates me and frustrates me and there are times I hate it.

This past week, I was again embroiled in an extended email conversation with The Oddship, struggling to put my views across, to understand theirs. We don't use the phone, we work only in text, and with my difficulties comprehending it at times, it can be so very tiring. Oddy has been wonderful in making sure what is sent to me is understood, including a follow up email if they are concerned I've had a problem with the message.

This week, though, egos were bruised, explanations questioned, and, although it worked out in the end, and our butterfly breath relationship is back in place.

Phone calls would help, the schedules don't allow them. Text flies back and forth, via email and phone text and we deal with things that way. We don't give up because somehow, we fill niches in the other's life. There is true affection and concern... respect is huge on both sides.

I just wish we didn't have to use the written word to work things out. You write in one voice, and the person reading hears it in their own. If they are upset to begin with, it can actually taint whatever is sent. Both of us are fortunate we do care enough to make sure we stick with it until it's resolved.

I simply hate the pain that occurs until that resolution occurs.

10 comments:

Solomon said...

Could you leave voicemails?

Cormac Brown said...

"I just wish we didn't have to use the written word to work things out. You write in one voice, and the person reading hears it in their own. If they are upset to begin with, it can actually taint whatever is sent. Both of us are fortunate we do care enough to make sure we stick with it until it's resolved."

Ex-expletive-actly!

Er, excuse me...well said, Quin.

austere said...

Sometime I'll tell you.

golfwidow said...

It's good that both of you are skilled enough that you can, for the most part, manipulate written language to where it can be understood on all levels. Here you are concentrating on the few times you misunderstand each other, but you should also congratulate yourself on how well you communicate ... using only text ... the rest of the time.

raino said...

sadly, text is part of our busy lives. i have to say that i have had only a few bad experiences and those were with individuals that tend to be difficult to deal with through text or verbally.

cool site. i'm new to it.

Alone on the Isle said...

I couldn't agree with you more... the written word just doesn't do conversation justice.

How are you my friend?

the Constantly Dramatic One said...

Couldn't you just call him?

vinny said...

Glad to hear the storm blew over.

Quin Browne said...

a~i await your story...

cd and sol~we do leave voice mails on occasion, usually at the same time, thus the calls are missed.

isle~i'll write

raino~thank you for looking at my bit of the world!

vinny~me, too.

cormac~thanks... :)

gw~don't you know it. and you do.

Therapeutic Ramblings said...

Texting is definitely a limiting form of communication because you can judge inflection in a person's voice, body language, etc.

I do like the txt because it is quick, but no serious conversations should happen this way.