Do we know how they happen? Words said or written in one context, taken in another... you try to straighten it all out, and it muddles up further.
Text is a hard thing to deal with; written in the voice of one person, read in the voice of another, they can portray what we need to say perfectly, or what the sender feels is important can be overlooked while a minute issue is made large by the receiver... or vice versa.
Without the depth of voice, the ability to discuss, to soothe over rough spots. to volley back and forth to sort out what has caused problems...
Thus, letters or text messages fly out, perceptions happen, responses occur and feelings are hurt.
There isn't much you can do once this starts...until a voice steps in, until you can talk and say, "No, this is what I was saying, this is how I meant you to read it, I'm sorry."
Then, you can straighten it all out, figure out the important bits, discuss, dialogue, laugh, argue...
Words can make you swoon, laugh, cry, go to war, read non-stop into the middle of the night... a voice can add texture to those words.
For any one who misunderstood anything I've said, who has overlooked or underlooked.... I'm sorry.
Our Neville Fact:
Our Neville and Margaret never go to bed angry at one another. They are special that way.